Comments on: Where can the One whom my soul loves be found? http://www.deebrestin.com/2009/10/where-can-the-one-whom-my-soul-loves-be-found/ Thu, 09 Feb 2012 00:27:18 +0000 hourly 1 By: Mary P. http://www.deebrestin.com/2009/10/where-can-the-one-whom-my-soul-loves-be-found/comment-page-1/#comment-1041 Mary P. Wed, 18 Nov 2009 13:06:44 +0000 http://www.deebrestin.com/?p=1284#comment-1041 Diana, I am so sorry about your husband. Thank you for sharing that - what a beautiful testimony. Diana, I am so sorry about your husband. Thank you for sharing that – what a beautiful testimony.

]]> By: Diana http://www.deebrestin.com/2009/10/where-can-the-one-whom-my-soul-loves-be-found/comment-page-1/#comment-906 Diana Thu, 05 Nov 2009 14:52:15 +0000 http://www.deebrestin.com/?p=1284#comment-906 Dee, I do have very personal thoughts on this question but first I want to tell you how God used you in my life yesterday. I was in my car trying to find a place to park to go to my bible study . Focus on the Family was re-airing the program where you share about the loss of your husband. I sat in the car, tears streaming down my face listening to your story about how painful it was to loose Steve. I am in that situation now and many times I just don't know what to do with the pain. I so desperately need to know how to "live" while my husband is dying. He is in the end stages of early onset Alzheimers disease I felt a closeness to you because of a few things.The year Steve went to be with the Lord was the year my husband was diagnosed. He was only 56 then and is 60 now.They were both so young and vital when disease struck them. He went to the University of Wisconsin. We have fond memories of the beginning of our marriage there and a wonderful church community and the beginning of our family. I just finished reading from your posts of the funeral and all about Steve. My husband is also a wonderful,loving,Christian servant who always thought of the other person. That especially was expressed in our marriage. I don't think there was every a time I needed or just wanted him to do something for me that he didn't respond quickly and with joy. I'd be happy to", was one of his most often said phrases.Well, I could go on and on but back to the question.My husband now is one of the least of these. He is an adult but his needs are that of a child. I put him to bed at night and get him up in the morning and do everything in between. It has been suggested that I "put him somewhere" so "I can have a life". I cringe when I here those words. How self-centered. This is my life.A chance to truly serve without return from another. What could I be doing that would be any better or have any more value and purpose than taking care of my husband when he needs me most. God has filled me with His love and compassion in ways that I would never have believed possible because of this. My husband lived his life for Christ and was the one who led me to Him. Now, it is my turn to love him in this way. I don't know how long this will be but for now I can not think of any better way to tell God and my husband " I love you". I do want to add one thing. I am not being critical towards any one who chooses to have a loved on in a care facility. Every situation is different. I just know for me this is what I have to do. Di Dee, I do have very personal thoughts on this question but first I want to tell you how God used you in my life yesterday. I was in my car trying to find a place to park to go to my bible study . Focus on the Family was re-airing the program where you share about the loss of your husband. I sat in the car, tears streaming down my face listening to your story about how painful it was to loose Steve. I am in that situation now and many times I just don’t know what to do with the pain.
I so desperately need to know how to “live” while my husband is dying. He is in the end stages of early onset Alzheimers disease I felt a closeness to you because of a few things.The year Steve went to be with the Lord was the year my husband was diagnosed.
He was only 56 then and is 60 now.They were both so young and vital when disease struck them. He went to the University of Wisconsin. We have fond memories of the beginning of our marriage there and a wonderful church community and the beginning of our family. I just finished reading from your posts of the funeral and all about Steve. My husband is also a wonderful,loving,Christian servant who always thought of the other person. That especially was expressed in our marriage. I don’t think there was every a time I needed or just wanted him to do something for me that he didn’t respond quickly and with joy. I’d be happy to”, was one of his most often said phrases.Well, I could go on and on but back to the question.My husband now is one of the least of these. He is an adult but his needs are that of a child. I put him to bed at night and get him up in the morning and do everything in between. It has been suggested that I “put him somewhere” so “I can have a life”. I cringe when I here those words. How self-centered. This is my life.A chance to truly serve without return from another. What could I be doing that would be any better or have any more value and purpose than taking care of my husband when he needs me most. God has filled me with His love and compassion in ways that I would never have believed possible because of this. My husband lived his life for Christ and was the one who led me to Him. Now, it is my turn to love him in this way. I don’t know how long this will be but for now I can not think of any better way to tell God and my husband ” I love you”.

I do want to add one thing. I am not being critical towards any one who chooses to have a loved on in a care facility. Every situation is different. I just know for me this is what I have to do. Di

]]> By: elizabeth http://www.deebrestin.com/2009/10/where-can-the-one-whom-my-soul-loves-be-found/comment-page-1/#comment-844 elizabeth Thu, 15 Oct 2009 23:16:44 +0000 http://www.deebrestin.com/?p=1284#comment-844 Be praying also Dee...Bless you :) Be praying also Dee…Bless you :)

]]> By: Jan Elizabeth http://www.deebrestin.com/2009/10/where-can-the-one-whom-my-soul-loves-be-found/comment-page-1/#comment-843 Jan Elizabeth Thu, 15 Oct 2009 20:01:05 +0000 http://www.deebrestin.com/?p=1284#comment-843 Praying for you, Ms. Dee! I'll be researching into that verse as well. Sounds intriguing.. Praying for you, Ms. Dee! I’ll be researching into that verse as well. Sounds intriguing..

]]> By: Susan http://www.deebrestin.com/2009/10/where-can-the-one-whom-my-soul-loves-be-found/comment-page-1/#comment-842 Susan Wed, 14 Oct 2009 23:51:53 +0000 http://www.deebrestin.com/?p=1284#comment-842 I'll be praying!--And, checking out that verse! :o) I’ll be praying!–And, checking out that verse! :o)

]]> By: Fellowsojourner http://www.deebrestin.com/2009/10/where-can-the-one-whom-my-soul-loves-be-found/comment-page-1/#comment-841 Fellowsojourner Wed, 14 Oct 2009 12:57:04 +0000 http://www.deebrestin.com/?p=1284#comment-841 Praying for you Dee! =) Fellowsojourner. Praying for you Dee!
=)
Fellowsojourner.

]]> By: Dee Brestin http://www.deebrestin.com/2009/10/where-can-the-one-whom-my-soul-loves-be-found/comment-page-1/#comment-840 Dee Brestin Wed, 14 Oct 2009 10:53:46 +0000 http://www.deebrestin.com/?p=1284#comment-840 I'm headed out on the road and would covet your prayers for the taping of three Midday radio broadcasts -- the first will air Thursday, Oct 15th at noon -- and then on to a retreat in Illinois. When I come back I'm going to ask you about the phrase from Song of Songs that comes next -- "Why should I be like a veiled woman?" Honestly, right now I don't know what it means -- but I'll be asking the Lord and researching. You too, I hope! I’m headed out on the road and would covet your prayers for the taping of three Midday radio broadcasts — the first will air Thursday, Oct 15th at noon — and then on to a retreat in Illinois. When I come back I’m going to ask you about the phrase from Song of Songs that comes next — “Why should I be like a veiled woman?”
Honestly, right now I don’t know what it means — but I’ll be asking the Lord and researching. You too, I hope!

]]> By: Dee Brestin http://www.deebrestin.com/2009/10/where-can-the-one-whom-my-soul-loves-be-found/comment-page-1/#comment-839 Dee Brestin Tue, 13 Oct 2009 10:58:50 +0000 http://www.deebrestin.com/?p=1284#comment-839 Susan -- these are the kind of testimonies that help us to die those deaths of obedience -- for we see how He meets us, and gives us life. Thanks so much for sharing! Susan — these are the kind of testimonies that help us to die those deaths of obedience — for we see how He meets us, and gives us life. Thanks so much for sharing!

]]> By: Susan Nolley http://www.deebrestin.com/2009/10/where-can-the-one-whom-my-soul-loves-be-found/comment-page-1/#comment-838 Susan Nolley Mon, 12 Oct 2009 18:56:36 +0000 http://www.deebrestin.com/?p=1284#comment-838 Dee, I think this is so true! I'll share my story. A little over a year ago, the Lord began speaking to me about moving beyond my comfort zone and becoming more "others-centered". I began to see and understand that I could actually make a difference in someone else's life every day by committing my day to Him and looking for the opportunities that He put in my path, however simple they might be. In this process, I became a volunteer with a hospice agency and was assigned to a little lady with a lung disease. She was also very poor and the Lord directed me to find out what kind of snacks she liked and to provide those. When I would go to visit and take a bag of snack foods, you would have thought I had just given her some expensive gift! She was so grateful, as she was unable to afford such simple things that we take for granted. One day as I left work to go home for my lunch hour, I felt impressed to go to the grocery and get some snack foods and take them to her. It was not the day I normally went and I only had an hour, so I dismissed it and went on home. I got in the house and went to the kitchen to fix my lunch, when I sensed an urgency to go right then. I left immediately and went by the store and on to her house. When I walked in, her eyes welled up with tears. She told me that she had prayed--she had no food and had not had anything to eat since the night before when she had opened all that she had left, a can of Ensure, and drunk that. I told her I'd be back as soon as I got off work that afternoon and would bring her some groceries. As I left that home and started back to work, my eyes filled with tears as I realized I had just been "Jesus with skin on" to that woman! I was overwhelmed with His love for that woman and for me in allowing me to be His hand extended to one of 'the least of these'!I also realized how important it is to be obedient when He speaks and not put it off until a more "convenient" time! Every time I am privileged to 'make a difference', I understand again what scripture means when it states that it is more blessed to give than receive! Dee, I think this is so true! I’ll share my story. A little over a year ago, the Lord began speaking to me about moving beyond my comfort zone and becoming more “others-centered”. I began to see and understand that I could actually make a difference in someone else’s life every day by committing my day to Him and looking for the opportunities that He put in my path, however simple they might be.

In this process, I became a volunteer with a hospice agency and was assigned to a little lady with a lung disease. She was also very poor and the Lord directed me to find out what kind of snacks she liked and to provide those. When I would go to visit and take a bag of snack foods, you would have thought I had just given her some expensive gift! She was so grateful, as she was unable to afford such simple things that we take for granted.

One day as I left work to go home for my lunch hour, I felt impressed to go to the grocery and get some snack foods and take them to her. It was not the day I normally went and I only had an hour, so I dismissed it and went on home. I got in the house and went to the kitchen to fix my lunch, when I sensed an urgency to go right then. I left immediately and went by the store and on to her house. When I walked in, her eyes welled up with tears. She told me that she had prayed–she had no food and had not had anything to eat since the night before when she had opened all that she had left, a can of Ensure, and drunk that. I told her I’d be back as soon as I got off work that afternoon and would bring her some groceries.

As I left that home and started back to work, my eyes filled with tears as I realized I had just been “Jesus with skin on” to that woman! I was overwhelmed with His love for that woman and for me in allowing me to be His hand extended to one of ‘the least of these’!I also realized how important it is to be obedient when He speaks and not put it off until a more “convenient” time!

Every time I am privileged to ‘make a difference’, I understand again what scripture means when it states that it is more blessed to give than receive!

]]> By: Dee Brestin http://www.deebrestin.com/2009/10/where-can-the-one-whom-my-soul-loves-be-found/comment-page-1/#comment-837 Dee Brestin Mon, 12 Oct 2009 14:32:05 +0000 http://www.deebrestin.com/?p=1284#comment-837 "It is here that He dwells." Your great story reminds me of so many verses from 1 John, Fellowsojourner -- particularly 1 John 3:14-20. Thanks so much for making this so real. “It is here that He dwells.” Your great story reminds me of so many verses from 1 John, Fellowsojourner — particularly 1 John 3:14-20. Thanks so much for making this so real.

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